So I was talking to a friend of mine and we got talking about if I would be interested in a TGirl. and I said no...cause I'm not into girls. and he wondered if that would be different if they still had a penis. When I thought about it...I don't think so. I mean the penis is important to the stuff I like to do sexually. But I am not sexually attracted to girls, the whole energy is different, it feels different to me and there is no sexual spark there for me. So the obvious question was well what about a TBoy? I can see that. I can see being attracted to a Man even without the "equipment" you can work around equipment or lack there of. But you can't change a person's energy/feel to you.
So I was wondering what your attraction centers on. Not necessarily just gender vs genitals wise but in general what are the vital things for you to be attracted to someone and yes I am curious specifically about gender and genitals too(o:
So I was wondering what your attraction centers on. Not necessarily just gender vs genitals wise but in general what are the vital things for you to be attracted to someone and yes I am curious specifically about gender and genitals too(o:
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Fri, June 29, 2007 - 7:58 AMInteresting topic. We're all different...some TGs seem to prefer dating other TGs exclusively. Others identify as totally straight, and are only into GGs. Personally, although I'm bisexual, I find myself preoccupied with dating men at this point in my life. My focus is on bringing out the more feminine aspects of my personality, and I feel much more feminine in the presence of a masculine male...the experience enhances the contrast of the yin and the yang for me, I think. -
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Sat, June 30, 2007 - 12:07 AMthat makes sense. I think we are drawn to relationships that draw different things out of us at different times.
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Fri, July 13, 2007 - 12:23 PMI like sex with both men and women, but I think for a relationship, I would have to be with a woman. I don't feel any connection to men romantically. I find the thought of dating a man to be about as appealing as dating my father. Anyway, genitials aren't usually what attract me to a person. I don't have a preference when it comes to what kind of equipment a person has.
I feel that at this point in my life, the perfect companion for me would be a transwoman. Being with genetic women is wonderful and all, but I as supportive as she may be, I don't think she could understand my transition and all the struggles associated with it like another trans person can. Does any of this make sense? -
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Fri, July 13, 2007 - 2:53 PMthat totally makes sense, I think there can be positive in someone who hasn't been through the same things though. I find that I learn a ton about myself when people are understanding and curious.
I know it's not the genitals I am attracted too. but I do know I really crave certain equipment at certain times(o: it isn't enough though. not to attract me to someone and I don't believe to make me not attracted either.
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Sat, July 21, 2007 - 10:00 PM<<<I feel that at this point in my life, the perfect companion for me would be a transwoman.>>>
That's my thinking as well, regarding my situation. I can be attracted to all sorts of people, but find myself *most* attracted to the notion of being with a transwoman. That said, I am rarely all that physically attracted to *anyone* , so it's almost academic. And I confess to having some definite preferences re genitals as well.....pre-op or non-op.
The people I've been the most attracted to in the recent past were MTF crossdressers or TS's. None, however, were "relationship material", so I moved on.... . -
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Sun, July 22, 2007 - 2:56 PMoy for a long time there I was only attracted to people who were terrible ideas for relationships. Part of me is like "what is up with that?!?" and part of me thinks it was to protect me until I was ready to be in a relationship. At least that is what I'm hoping. -
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Sun, July 22, 2007 - 3:26 PM<<<attracted to people who were terrible ideas for relationships. Part of me is like "what is up with that?!?">>>
LOL. Yes. I've certainly done my share of questioning regarding "what's up with that? Is it ME who has the problem, if I only pick people who are nowhere near able to be in a relationship?".
Two of the transwomen I was rather seriously involved with were also "transitioning" while we were together,,,bad timing. But I put "transitioning" in quotes because one had already been "starting her transition" for about ten years when I met her....and made no forward progress in that direction while we were together....x years later, she's still in exactly the same spot, basically running around crying on the shoulder of anyone who'll listen, fishing for compliments ("support"), saying that if she can feel reassured that she's "pretty enough", she'll go for it. Please.
The other one is a fucking basket case, plain and simple. She has so many different versions of all her stories, that no two people have ever really "met" the same person, when they've met her....to one she's non-op, the next she's pre-op, the next she's post-op, to one "Admirer" she's a "tranz-lesbian", the next day she runs a profile ad labeling herself "straight", the next day a different profile reads "bisexual". One day she's "currently in a very satisfactory long term relationship and not seeking any new acquaintances", the next she's lamenting how sad it is that she's been alone for so long, the next week she posts some online notice stating how she's finally accepted how great it is to be single and be ok with that. According to her website, I think she was involved in about five relationships that she referred to as "long-term" in the first five months after we broke up. Including the months inbetween those "long term relationships" where she said she was happily single, or "just dating". I haven't quite figured the math out on that one yet.The list goes on.... .
Took me awhile to figure out: "compulsive liar".
So yeah, I'm now sooooo cautious because I don't trust my judgement. I've also learned that you have to wary of transpeople who are Just Plain Crazy, period, but who--- when called on their shit---- will blame it on being trans, on being in the middle of a transition, on being "oppressed", on "the time just not being right--- I'm not myself right now", etc. -
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Sun, July 22, 2007 - 4:12 PMI would widen that to be more than wary of people who are just plain crazy...no matter what else is or is not going on with them. (o:
For me, I know if I have a pattern I am choosing it for some reason. I kept choosing people who were unavailable.
Now I've found someone who is totally available in all of the ways those men were unavailable...and I go back and forth between a sense of peace that once I was ready for a full relationship it came to me in such a natural way it almost feels too easy...and not trusting myself, wondering if he is not available in a different and even deeper way and if it's too good to be true(o:
I pretty much think we are all crazy...it's all about how crazy and finding someone whose craziness we fit with and who fits with ours.
Liars are very very bad about making you doubt yourself and your sanity. -
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Re: Gender vs Genitals
Sun, July 22, 2007 - 8:19 PMSanity is subjective, in my experience.
Know yourself, know your path...and all the rest seems to drop into place.
Picture what you wish to bring into your world, and hold it in your mind. It cannot help but come to pass.
Just MHO...
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